The Nature of Love

Following my thoughts over the past few days about my future I have now narrowed down my thoughts to one question. What is the nature of fulfilling love on this earth? I have presumed the answer is to have whatever it is that ones loves. And eventually, when I understand what I am feeling, I shall probably find the categories of love, desire and need helpful. But fo now, they are all mixed.


I have now become sceptical of my presumptions about the nature of love on this earth. The idea that the greatest fulfilment of love is to have whatever one loves. For example, if it is a woman, mary her. That certainly seems to kill love in many marriages. But it does not satisfy.
As applied to me right now, I have many loves of life. I love teaching, dancing, studying, travelling etc. I love many life carriers: missions, dancing, education, music, language, TESOL etc. But on this earth I am very limited. I can not possibly fulfil my love by doing them all. Thus I have become a sceptic of this presumption. I begin my search with the hope that there is a better way to love and the first clue I have is

“Greater love hath no man than this: that he lay down his life for a friend”.

There is a precept on love claiming that the greatest love is expressed in giving not taking. Perhaps there a difference between finite life and infinite. Infinite love? That no doubt would fill. But nothing that is finite will fill what is infinite. You can not fill your longing for love with a cheese cake.

So there are finite loves. Food, shelter, clothes.
But there are also infinite. Truth, love, perfection. (not sure about these categories.)

Is it possible that all these pursuits in life, whether a husband, food, life carrier etc. all carry a little bit of the desire for the infinite? That would explain why they never fulfil our expectations and why we would not have to do them all to fill. If we are drawing from an infinite source already, then we can engage with these finite things truly.

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.